Some Afterthoughts on A Little Life [part 2]

Finally I did write the second part of something I’ve promised before.

This is a summary of what I learned after reading Hanya Yanagihara’s A Little Life. You may have to read the book first, or you can read the first part here.

1. “But they would both keep trying, because they trusted the other, and because the other person was the only other person who would be ever worth such hardships, such difficulties, such insecurities and exposure.”
   Love requires struggle. Those insecurities and exposure are only revealed to the people we think are worth it.
   We choose our people. Then we have to be willing to go through such hardships and difficulties in order to keep the relationships growing.
   Then it will be rewarding.
   But I still don’t know how to recognize the line between giving myself and giving too much of myself. How do you guys do it?
2. “Eventually he would learn how to fold those months into his life and accept them and keep going. He always had.”
   This is how I process my life. How I process my days into my overall ‘life logs’. What seems complicated and big now, will be nothing more than a small dot from the future.
   Good days and bad days will eventually be the past.
3. “It was the first time I realized that as much as he was two people around as, so were we two people around him: we saw him of what we wanted, and allowed ourselves not to see anything else.”
   Sometimes we see in other people only what we wanted to see. In my case, it’s especially true for my closest people, people that I love.
   I forget that he/she is another person with their own minds and way of thinking. I can’t force them to do what I want them to do.

Thanks for reading!